Do you feel the tension creeping in, the anxiety coursing through your body, the stress starting to cloud your mind? STOP!
When you lose your center, you lose touch with your inner wisdom. Remember: the mark of a true master is to be able to stay balanced and centered, no matter what challenges they may be facing!
So if the stress of life is making you lose your balance, follow these 6 steps find your center again:
1. Stop for a moment
When you’re stressed out, it is very likely that you’re acting, speaking, and behaving in an desperate, erratic, frantic way, running in 10 different directions but going nowhere. Therefore, the first thing you should do if you’re starting to feel tense and panicky, is to stop for a moment.
It might seem counter-intuitive to stop when you feel your heart and your mind racing, but at least try it. It doesn’t matter how big a hurry you’re in, how many things you have to do, and how little time to do them, you can always stop, even if it’s just for a moment. If you’re feeling really anxious or if you feel like everything is going wrong, you could go so far as to say “STOP!” out loud.
Try it: you’ll soon discover that it’s better to stop for a moment to decide what to do and how to do it than to keep being frantic, running in every direction, getting more and more stressed out with every step you take.
2. Take a very deep breath
When the tension rises and the pressure is on, our heart rate increases noticeably, and our breathing becomes quicker, more shallow, and erratic. Nevertheless, no matter how panicked you may be, you always have the power to control your breathing by becoming more aware of it, and breathing deeply, slowly, and calmly.
After you stop for a moment, focus on your breathing. Notice how you’re inhaling and exhaling. Then, take a very deep breath: breathe in as slowly as you can, hold it in for a couple of seconds, and breathe out as slowly and deliberately as you can, consciously taking almost twice as long to breathe out as it took to breathe in. Repeat this exercise 3 times, remembering to exhale twice as slow as you inhale.
If you want to go a step further, close your eyes while you breathe deeply, and you’ll immediately start to calm down. It’s like a tiny meditation that gives you all the great benefits, but takes half the time.
3. Say a wellness affirmation
After stopping for a moment and breathing deeply 3 times with your eyes closed, say a wellness affirmation that brings you peace. Choose your favorite affirmation out of the ones you know, and go ahead and say it, out loud or in silence. If you still don’t have an affirmation that you like, you can try saying this one that the noted self-improvement expert Louise Hay recommends:
“I am protected by the Universe’s divine, unconditional love. I am always safe and secure. All is well in my world. I am well.”
This affirmation is wonderful because it creates some degree of wellness instantly, regardless of the levels of stress that you may be experiencing. It is also a great introductory affirmation that you can keep complementing with other more specific affirmations.
For example, if you’re stressed out because you may not have enough time to do something you need to do, you can use this affirmation:
“I am protected by the Universe’s divine, unconditional love. I am always safe and secure. I am well. I am on an endless journey through eternity, and there is plenty of time. All is well in my world.”
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If you’re nervous because you have a job interview, a presentation, or date, you can use the following affirmation:
“I am protected by the Universe’s divine, unconditional love. I am always safe and secure. I am wll. I communicate with ease and joy. I communicate with my heart. All is well in my world.”
Always remember that words have power, and that you can use that power to create well-being and many other positive emotions in your life. Say the affirmations that you choose, every time you feel tense or stressed out. Say them until they become engraved into your memory.
4. Motivate yourself
Once you’ve said your wellness affirmations and feel calmer, it’s time to motivate yourself. When you encourage yourself, you feel more energized, focused, and motivated to keep going.
If you already know how to motivate and inspire yourself, do what works best for you! If not, you could try some of the motivational affirmations:
-“I trust myself.”
-“I can do anything I set my mind to.”
-“I am smart and creative.”
-“I can solve any problem. I can handle this easily.”
-“I deserve the best things in life, and I allow myself to get them.”
-“I accept myself because I am wonderful just the way I am.”
-“The Universe loves me unconditionally and is always working to bring me the best things in life.”
-“I am only good energy.”
When you’re looking to motivate yourself, anything goes! The key is to lift your spirit, and give yourself the positive energy you need to keep going and do what you have to do.
Did you know that your brain is programmed to associate your facial expressions with the emotions you feel? Surprise, happiness, sadness, anger, etc. all have specific facial expressions associated with them. Thus, when you feel a certain emotion, it triggers a certain facial expression that your brain has associated with it. The interesting part is that this also works the other way around: a specific facial expression triggers a certain emotion. That means that just by changing your facial expression, you can actually change your emotions!
Smile! It doesn’t matter how stressed out or how upset you are: if you start to smile, you’ll send your brain a sign of wellness, and your brain will create that wellness that it has associated with smiling.
6. Write down exactly what you have to do and how to do it… and start!
Once you completed all the previous steps and your levels of tension and stress have gone down noticeably, your body will feel much more relaxed and your mind more at peace. Now it’s time to get back to work: organize your thoughts regarding the situation you’re in and then decide the best course of action.
Ask yourself: “What do I have to do, step by step? What is the smartest and fastest way to do this? Who can help me do this better/faster?”
Answer these questions and make To-Do list. Prioritize the most important or urgent tasks by marking them with a star, and then create an action plan to complete the items on your list, starting by the most important ones. If you want, you can come up with a list of a few people who can help you, determine the best way to ask them to, and ask them.
Now that you’ve calmed down, motivated yourself, and created a plan with the things you have to do and the best way to do it, you’re ready to get back to work!
When you’re calm, motivated, and organized, you can do anything you set out to do!
Never underestimate the power you have to find your center, bring yourself peace, and change your state of mind. All you need is a little will-power and a couple of minutes, and you can start feeling balanced right away!
Best wishes to you, and have a Wise and Happy day! :)
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